SOULGEEK'S HANDY SAFE DATING TIPS
We call these “Online Communities” but our passion for fandom runs much deeper than your average “community”. No, we’re more like family… a giant, worldwide family with closets full of Jack Skellington hoodies, Spiderman ski-masks and Starfleet uniforms. And like all families, there are a few Clowns. And we all know, deep down inside, that Clowns are evil.
Unfortunately we at SoulGeek have no way to screen for said Clowns (evil or otherwise). Therefore we offer the following common sense items that can help keep you from becoming the victim of one.
PART 1 OF 2: THE BASIC SAFETY TIPS
DON’T REVEAL PERSONAL INFO
Credit card numbers are obvious-stupid to give out, but if someone gets just your name and city, it’s possible to Google your home address and “Deity knows” what else, so guard your identity with your life.
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, NOT PEOPLE
If it feels like a scam it probably is. You wouldn’t believe the kind of things people lie about – Who, What, Where, Age, Shoe Size, Species (at least on this site), Marital Status, Appearance, etc… so don’t arrange to meet too soon in the relationship, and for Crom’s sake…
DON’T SEND MONEY
It goes without saying that he really is the sweet, sensitive, Johnny Depp-alike who has a teensy cash-flow problem or she really is Karen Gillan’s nymphomaniacal twin sister who would give you the night of your life if she just had the first class airfare and four star hotel accommodations. Of course you can trust them. Nobody ever lies on the Internet, right?
If anyone harasses or is offensive, block them and report them to us IMMEDIATELY! The same goes for any kind of fraud or criminal activity, solicitation, panhandling, scams, spam or even just finding out they’re minors.
If you put Channing Tatum’s photo up in place of your own or put down “average” when you weigh 300 pounds, sure, you’ll get more attention but you’ll also get a lot of disappointment and anger when you finally meet.
And, “but I’m just looking for pen pals” is no excuse mister!
A Note From us GUYS here at SoulGeek: Ladies, there are certain kinds of men, we’ll call them… well… all of us, who, if you use an overly sexy or provocative nickname, will look upon it as a type of invitation.
A Note From us GALS here at SoulGeek: And Guys, just remember the opposite applies to YOU.
PART 2 of 2: THE DATING TIPS
Okay, so you’ve been corresponding back and forth for a couple months, you’ve both professed your love for “Land of the Lost”, “Firefly” and “Terry Pratchett”, and it’s finally time to meet. Hopefully, all this time, you’ve been on “Clown Alert” when it comes to strange or evasive behavior.
The following are just a few helpful hints so you don’t make too big a fool of yourself (or end up in a shallow grave).
MEET IN PUBLIC
A coffee shop, or restaurant, somewhere with lots of people – near the SoulGeek Booth in the dealer’s room at San Diego Comic-Con is nice. Be it convention of coffee shop do drive yourself there and back. DON’T go home with them (it’s a first date for frak sake).
IF AT ANY POINT YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, LEAVE (though if you run out on a check the chances of a second date are extremely slim).
ALWAYS TELL SOMEONE
A friend or relative should have your date’s name and number. You should check in before and after. You might even consider bringing a friend or group of friends. A band of Klingons are always nice.
As for you jet setters, we at the SoulGeek Network, LLC. STRONGLY ADVISE AGAINST domestic members setting up a date with someone outside the United States. However, you are an adult, and if you really must insist on meeting that guy/gal with the cute accent (and who is NOT subject to U.S. laws, by the way), please BE REDICULOUSLY SMART ABOUT IT!!!!
Make sure those same friends and/or relatives of yours have each and every scrap of information humanly possible - from your travel itinerary, right down to your date’s name, address, phone number, credit score, shoe size and the type of cheese preferred by their next-of-kin! You CANNOT be too careful.
Especially where cheese is concerned.
Do we really have to say getting completely falling down sh**-faced on the first date isn’t a good idea? Okay, getting completely falling down sh**-faced on the first date isn’t a good idea. Even getting a mild buzz going isn’t a good idea.
Anyway, no booze, no drugs and watch your drink, whatever it is. Some guys’ idea of what makes a romantic evening special is a little weird - and if you think we’re being sexist here, when was the last time you heard of a date rape drug being used on a man…? (No we’re not requesting testimonials)
DON’T FORGET YOUR CELL
If things get weird, excuse yourself to the bathroom and call a friend for advice. If things get really weird (to the point you feel you’re in danger) call the police. Your safety is more important than what the cops may think (which is probably weird anyway).
Evasive, vague, ambiguous, talks in circles - has something to hide.
Inconsistency, doesn’t look like their photo or seem like their profile – fake.
Can only meet or talk at odd hours – married.
Professes undying love on first date (or before) – weirdo.
Robs you – criminal.
Looks just like you – Cylon.
Set up another date ONLY if comfortable and ready.
If it works out and you meet the SoulGeek of your dreams please by all means send us a testimonial via the “Contact Us” page!! (Include your address and we’ll send you a pair of T-Shirt!)
Basically, just remember while Fan-Guys and Fan-Gals the world over are pretty cool people, there are still a lot of creeps, maniacs, weirdos and clowns out there, and again, just to be ridiculous-clear here…
…WE HAVE NO WAY TO SCREEN FOR THAT.
Which brings us to the Legal stuff:
Although we have listed several safety tips, the list is by no means all-inclusive. Use your common sense.
We are not responsible for members' behavior, and by using this dating site, you agree to indemnify, defend and hold The SoulGeek Network, LLC. harmless from any losses or liability you may incur.
So DO be careful, have fun… and may you find YOUR SoulGeek at SoulGeek.com!