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Sarahtdl: Kidnapping Is Just Plain Wrong: Why Geek Love is a lot like “The Tick” part 1
Kidnapping Is Just Plain Wrong: Why Geek Love is a lot like “The Tick” part 1
Jul 24 2007 at 09:16am
“Well, I hope you boys have learned your lesson. In love, there's a right way and a wrong way to do things. The right way is to take someone to a movie. The wrong way is to take someone from a movie. Because kidnapping is just plain wrong!”- “Sidekicks Don’t Kiss”, The Tick Animated Series.
Every fall, I make the trip up to Bakuretsu Con in Colchester, VT. to run their guest relations department. I work many conventions in the New England area, my biggest being Anime Boston. As much as I love that convention, with over 10,000 attending fans this past year, there’s something really relaxing and simple about con’s like Baku. Small (under 1000), less frantic paced, this is the kind of convention that makes it easier to meet people.
At least, I thought that was the case. Apparently I was mistaken.
I had the privilege to be asked to sit in on a panel with Artist Steve Bennett (Of the late Iron cat Studio’s) and Spike Spencer (The voice actor known best for his work as the English voice of Shinji in Neon Genesis Evangelion) They do a “How to Talk to Geek Girls” workshop for Geek Guys, and asked me to sit in. I’m a happily married geek girl, who’s been with her geek guy for 10 years (4 dating, and 6 married) and so they decided I was the expert they needed on the panel. After all I fell in love with my husband when we were both players in a tabletop role playing game.
I agreed, more out of a sense of fun that really thinking they needed me, and was shocked when the panel was full with standing room only. I found myself fielding more questions that either of the celebrity guests, and after it was over I went to the lobby with 25 or 30 guys who wanted to continue the workshop and ask me more questions.
I’ve never seen myself as an ask Abby type. And yet, what I saw as fairly common sense things seemed like revelations to these guys. All of who were sweet, friendly, geek boys. Most of who were gentleman. And yet all of them seemed to think they could not find true love.
It strikes me that as a culture; we’ve shown both geeks guys and girls the stereotype of the “Revenge of the Nerds” type geek. We’ve begun to believe the myth that Geeks are undesirable, even when surrounded by the very people that share our passions and interests! Why? How could that be?
I think a large problem is that as Geeks we have been taught to fear love. Love is the great big charging engine of the unknown, the thing that makes us the most vulnerable when many of us already feel too exposed to the world as a whole. Even when at our hearts of hearts we want love so badly.
In short, we’re Arthur wanting to be “The Tick”